What Quitting Barre Taught me about getting results

One of the most important lessons I learned this year is to STOP doing things I hate to do. This seems like a no-brainer, but many of us as women and business owners do tons of stuff we hate because we think it’s the necessary trade-off for getting what we want. Letting go of what drains me in business has been an ongoing process. But a few months ago I realized I need to also apply this to my daily life. 

Even though I was going to Barre classes at least 4 days a week and had been in other studios over the last 3 years, I REALLY hated it. I bullied myself into going, was miserable the whole time, and beat myself up for not having more endurance.  Then, as soon as it was over I high-tailed out of there. Eventually, my body started to rebel and I was having lower back and hip pains that only made the experience even more miserable. I still kept showing up with a really bad attitude and determination, because I thought this is what I needed to do to the body I wanted. 

Finally, my husband said, “It’s like you are punishing yourself. Why don’t you just quit?” My first reaction was almost combative like, I’m no quitter! Then, I realized how ridiculous this whole situation really was. I was intentionally making myself miserable because in the past, I liked Barre and it gave me the results I wanted. Even though that was no longer true, I just kept pushing through, because I had created a belief that this was the only way to get what I want. 

It took me a few weeks, but I did quit. I decided to go back to my yoga practice. Yoga is something I started learning 20 years ago, and I love it. I love it so much that I never really thought about it as exercise. My yoga classes are challenging and some days I don’t feel like going, but I also feel really good when I do and I am getting stronger. Proof that getting what you want doesn’t have to be hard.

That’s a very similar pattern I have also experienced in business and I know I am not the only one because I see so many of my clients do it too. Maybe, you are bullying yourself to start a podcast, even though have a great referral system. Maybe, you are pumping yourself up to dance on TikTok even though you have a great Facebook group. Whatever your version of Barre is, there is another way to get what you want that doesn’t feel like punishment.  

For some reason, I needed my husband to tell me to quit to feel like it was OK for me to cancel my membership, and that experience has made me look at everything differently in my day-to-day life. What I realized from this whole experience is that I needed a huge mindset shift around doing things I hate in my personal life, just like I had in my business.

Human Design gave me a HUGE dose of similar permission in my business to stop doing what I thought I needed to do for what actually felt right for me. I know this is why my clients cry when we go through their Human Design chart. They feel seen, understood, and free to let go of what doesn’t make them happy. It’s permission to find your yoga AND get the results you want. 

You can find out exactly Human Design can totally change YOUR business when you join my totally free workshop on December 6th, Attract Your Next Five Clients. Join this 1-hour workshop where you will find out your Human Design type and learn which strategies align with your unique blueprint so you can STOP doing stuff you hate and start attracting clients with ease.